“The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best.” – Epictetus
I’m a firm believer that pretty much everything in life is divinely orchestrated; that the things we think may be by chance in fact were planned and perfected long before they come to pass. So I have a feeling that decades prior to meeting my best girls, there was someone in the background planning our moves because He knew just how much we would sweeten life for each other in such great and unexpected ways when we finally crossed paths.
Eleven years ago this month, all my best girls and I met as freshman residents on Somerville Place, the historically black floor in the dorms at USC. I applied for the floor hoping to find a sense of community amongst other brainy black kids like me at a majority white institution. I figured I’d meet a couple cool people, gain some friends to go to parties with, and connect with other girls who wouldn’t make me feel out of place when I grooved to Usher and Kanye while spending hours doing my hair in the community dorm bathrooms. Lol.
Well, I got what I was looking for and so, so much more. I think I speak for all of my girls when I say we inherited a group of sisters, not bound by blood, but by heart.
We love each other, we encourage each other, we inspire each other, we celebrate one another, we’re there for each other in good times and in bad, we’re honest with each other, even when it hurts, and we pour into each other’s lives in ways that only true sister-soulmates can.
In honor of our 11-year ‘sistaversary’ I decided to have a family photoshoot of sorts in Prospect Park with five of us who currently live on the east coast. I figured if people can have photo shoots for engagements, weddings, and bringing new life into the world, we could certainly have a shoot to celebrate how far we’ve come as friends and the great times still to come in the future.
And, this being a style blog and all, it was also the perfect opportunity to document one of the things I admire most about my girls—their fabulous curly crowns!
Whether flat-ironed, twisted or picked out, the diversity amongst all of my girls’ strands represents the beauty and the versatility that comes with being a black women.
I’ve witnessed each of them wear their hair about a half-dozen different ways since we first met, but over the course of our decade-long friendship, one hair-related thing that never changes is that we all rock our different looks confidently and embrace the creativity that our curly strands allow for.
“I love the relationship I have with my hair. It is it’s own entity and I often have to allow my hair to be what it wants to be. But my hair is good to me. It tells me when I am stressed, dehydrated or in need of essential oils. It is unruly when I don’t take care of it but it is lovely when I do. My hair is not only a fashion statement, it is also an extension of my health and well being.” -Sophia
Occupation: Research & Strategic Planning Associate
Current city: New York City
Where you can find her: On her digital home for the soul
“Eight years ago I stopped perming my hair. One year ago I stopped flat ironing my hair. I’m loving learning about my natural texture. I do prefer to let a professional handle my mane, but I love having the option to do it myself and rock a fro if I feel like it ;)” -Vallery
Current city: Washington D.C.
Where you can find her: On her cooking blog Foodie At Home
“I love my hair because I’m finally starting to have fun with it. It took me 29 years to build up the courage to try out some hair color and I now realize that my hair is a blank canvas that I can have lots of fun with!” – Jasmine
Occupation: News Producer
Current City: Philadelphia
Where to find her: You can follow her on twitter @jazealexander where she talks about news, Philly, exercise & being vegan.
“I’ve come to embrace and be proud of the shape-shifting quality of my hair. Depending on the weather, what products I use, or how I style it, it can look completely different from one day to the next.” -Angela
Current City: New York & LA
Where to find her: You can pre-order Angela’s forthcoming book, The Turner House, on Amazon
“With my current short cut, I just love the way the shape brings out and accentuates my best facial features. I also adore the texture. I can’t imagine not having curly/kinky hair…it gives me life!” – Me